Raising and Educating a Deaf Child

International experts answer your questions about the choices, controversies, and decisions faced by the parents and educators of deaf and hard-of-hearing children.

Question from A.H., California

My boyfriend has a 3 year old son who was late on his speech, so we decided to take him to see a doctor. He has seen a neurologist and taken a BAER test which indicated that he had profound hearing loss in the left ear and severe in the right. He is very smart and his motor skills have always seemed high for his age. Were just confused on what are all the options it could be… we have been referred to the children’s hospital, but it wont be for a while. If any one has dealt with this or has any advice we would appreciate it. We’re just kind of lost on where do we go from here. (When he was born he passed his hearing test.) Also he seems to have behavior problems, and the docs say its just his age, but we feel it could be more. He has really bad anger problems and is very moody. Could that be because he can’t hear or should we look into other things like ADHD or bipolar syndrome?

Question from A.H., California. Posted April 5, 2013.
Response from Jennifer Lukomski - Rochester Institute of Technology

Based on the basic information provided, my thoughts are that your 3 year old boy’s anger and moodiness  is related more to his hearing loss and communication frustrations.   His behaviors may look like he has attention difficulties (i.e.,  easily distracted, impulsive, daydreaming). However, these behavior may because he cannot hear and uses his vision for information.  Sometimes parents have a difficult time differentiating whether the child’s hearing loss is contributing to disobedient behavior, or, whether the child’s attention and willfulness is creating communication difficulties.

In most cases, parents need to address communication issues before assuming defiant behavior. For example, parents must make eye contact  instead of talking to the child from a location where the child does not see the parent. There are many more communication strategies and tips for parents.  At this time, seeking out professionals who work with children who have  ommunication disorders is a suggestion, especially if your community does not have psychologists who have expertise in working with families who have deaf members. You also might check to see if there is a local chapter of Hands & Voices or contact the American Society for Deaf Children for advice.